How has adoption changed your life?
I was adopted as a baby so adoption changed my whole life. I was raised by parents that had material things but adoption was not talked about freely. My adoption was closed,which meant I had no information at all on my birth parents and was left alone with my imagination that never made up nice stories about my birth.
What is a lesson from your adoption experience that could be life-changing for all families?
I feel that living as a child with no story at all,not being allowed to grieve my loss was mental torture in many ways. This is not to say I wasn't loved I was, but openness ,honesty ,being allowed to have feel ings is essential for an adopted person to grow and move forward. Adopted parents do not be afraid if your child needs to know more this does not reflect your parenting,it is a journey some of us need to go on to find ourselves and heal.
What changes would you like to see made in adoption?
Open records in every state in America. No closed adoptions,if there have to be then contact with the birth family,or adopt the mother and child. Give teenage mothers time and support,help them keep their babies. If from an abusive family,find someone within that can be in touch for the child. Education for adopted families,a deeper understanding of the struggles,with no shame attached. Healing the whole triad.For people to understand that adoption is a trauma and needs to be treated as such.