How has adoption changed your life?
I was adopted at 2 months old in a closed adoption during the Baby Scoop Era. Relinquishment and adoption touched every facet of my life from the start. It was negative overall, especially the secrets, lies, poor choice of adoptive placement, and sad reunion experiences. I now fight for family preservation for others.
What is a lesson from your adoption experience that could be life-changing for all families?
No secrets, no lies, keep ties with the genetic family intact and ongoing forever, no change of name or birth certificate. There is no dignity for the individual being passed around when they are treated like a purchased piece of property with no lineage (no such thing as a 'blank slate' as a living being).
What changes would you like to see made in adoption?
Adoption by strangers only in very rare cases, when there are no living family members willing to raise the child. True orphans only. Otherwise, stay with family. Those adopted by others should keep their original name/birth certificate so ties are not totally severed from heritage and family tree. Guardianship over "ownership" with respect given to the child and no lies or secrets about their beginnings or family history.